100 Naughty Text Messages for Him to Drive Him Wild

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During your dirty talk, you can tease and excite your man by creating a fantasy for the two of you. However, bear in mind the point earlier about only suggesting things that you are comfortable with and would like to experience with him. If the initiation of dirty talk goes well, then the next issue that comes up is, well, what to say. There are a number of useful methods for making your dirty talk sound sexy. A really good way to practice is while masturbating.

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A sexy talk that doubles as a romantic gesture. That sounds to me like hitting two birds with one stone. Nothing turns a woman on more than a man who loves her body and can’t get enough of her.

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There is a misconception among women that they can’t be feminine, or that they need to be sexually aggressive to turn a man on. A man will respond to real, authentic, and even shy dirty phrases more so than explicit and aggressive sexual remarks in many cases. This doesn’t mean that some men don’t prefer really bawdy women, but don’t think that you have to be really outlandish to get his attention. Just whispering something fairly innocent in his ear like, “when we are alone, you have no idea the things I’m going to do to you,” is often sufficient.

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Dirty talk is usually thought of as something that occurs during partnered sex, but it can actually occur anytime, anywhere—with or without an audience. You can talk dirty to yourself when you’re alone. You can do it with a long-term lover or a one-night stand. You can talk dirty via text message, phone call, or FaceTime.

Start by just thinking about things you might say. After you find some words or phrases that really turn you on, say them out loud. One of the biggest secrets of successful dirty talk is that half of doing it well isn’t what you say — it’s how you say it. Smooth and self-assured sounds better than hesitant and nervous, no matter what is coming out of your mouth. A wholly underrated strategy of dirty talk is simply saying what you like. “It feels so good when you X my Y,” is easy, dirty, and hot.

• Even if you giggle, or mess up a “dirty phrase,” if this is authentically you, it’s going to be way hotter than some automatic, shake-and-bake phrase that you just regurgitate.
• You might be really nervous, and so you want to do it perfectly.
• The key to a healthy relationship obviously isn’t dirty talk, but ironically it could be the end of one, because you didn’t communicate.
• Maybe something that you qualify as ‘dirty talk’ is something the other person might find offensive, silly, or straight up insane, and vice versa.
• Just like a show-stopping broadway belt, talking dirty takes rehearsals before hitting the stage.

This message is best reserved for someone you’ve been regularly intimate with. It definitely falls under the “Intermediate” and “Advanced” levels, as you’re about to see, but it’s a massive turn on and builds a deeper sense of sexual openness. Once your mind has proof that they like it, and encourage you in expressing your dirty thoughts, you’ll feel much safer and comfortable to voice them in-person.

In other words, we’re scared of sounding pervy. But these are fears to cast aside, says Hellyer. After all, experts say erotic banter enhances sex for both speaker and listener.